Two nights ago I had a dream that I stroked my hair past my shoulder. And as I stroked my hair, it grew all the way past my stomach. Of course, being the spiritual kook that I am, I looked up what that meant on www.dreammoods.com. The site said that the long hair meant that I was “thinking long and carefully before making some decision…concentrating on some plan or situation” and that “stroking [my hair] suggests…taking on and evaluating a new idea, concept, outlook, or way of thinking.” And that I may be putting my “thoughts in order.” Which is actually pretty accurate.
The concept of Love is one that has evolved for me over the years. As much of romantic as I think I am, I never truly wanted Love in the form of a significant other. I definitely have experience all sorts of infatuation, but the aspiration of a lasting Love has always been something way back in my mind. There is so much Love within my friends and family circle that I never really pined for someone to Love the way movies and media asks us to. I think I may have even thought of it more as a fantasy than an actual reality of life. But it is through this dream my interpretation of Real Love comes to form (homage to MJB).
Now, this will probably sound ridiculous to a lot of people, but I am totally In-Love with my hair. Ha!
How do I know?
I washed and conditioned it… 
deep conditioned it… 
combed it out…
and twisted it.
It is a PROCESS (called True Love…lol)! I just spent 4 hours doing my hair. Now, as I type this out, I realize this just seems like acts of vanity. But I could cut that time down in HALF if I just got a relaxer in my hair and STILL style it fabulously. But I WILL NOT! Regardless of how difficult it may be at times, I have a genuine Love for my hair.
Don’t let the face fool you! LOL. I Love the tight curls. The Love the thickness.
I Love the texture.
These are all of the things that make it difficult, but these characteristics are the beauty of it.
I get to spend my entire life with the versatility that my hair has to offer by just getting through these moments that seem like agony (Lord knows putting a comb through it is not easy, even with the Chinese, Dutch and Native Guyanese Amerindian blood in me).
This is definitely a simplified explanation of Love. With another person I can ONLY imagine what it takes to go through your entire life with one person that you will never give up on and who will never give up on you. I can only imagine that it is those moments that require a seemingly insurmountable amount Strength, Loyalty and Love that would get two people through to a 30th or 50th anniversary. Not to mention the Understanding, Affection and Compromise (I tell everyone, most times I let my hair do what it wants to do…lol). Real Love is total acceptance of the other person, flaws and all. Of course there will be things that each person will have to work on for the sake of the relationship (NO ONE IS PERFECT). But it’s in the choices made at the times when you feel as though you’re at a breaking point that strengthen the bond between two lovers.
So I ask you, at what point did you say and know that you really Loved/ were In-Love? All stories welcomed. I mean, I talked about my hair for goodness sake. ;o)
LiberTeeLove 