Validation

What it means to be “qualified” in life? Is it just this one person, or is the whole universe a judge as to whether or not your even qualified to survive? Are you the real person who validates your own being? They say “make your own destiny,” but I’ve also been taught about fate as well as what it means to do what is safe and where is the validation in that?

With life we all go through stages. Each of these stages are saturated with the idea of validation. “Am I qualified to be the leader of this team?” “Am I qualified to serve donuts?” “Am I qualified to attend this school?” “I am qualified to be your lover?” “I am qualified to be your friend?” “I am qualified to be whatever you want me to be?” But who is really the judge of this “valid” feeling/option/quality? Your boss? The guy across the room? Your mother? Your father? Your wife’s parents? The manager of Chuck E. Cheese?

I don’t want to live a life where I feel as though I need to be “validated.” Being free of that word is being free from the fear of judgment which makes one question one’s adequacy. My fear is to live an ordinary life because I do not feel as though I am “ordinary.”

I want to made a valid part of society. I want to be a valid part of a valid relationship. I want to be of the echelon, but it starts within my own mind. And in viewing myself as of the echelon does not disqualify anyone else from such a ranking. It only takes determination, courage and a fearless way of life, without being careless.